Overcome Procrastination To Motivate Yourself & Others
Discover the simple strategies and motivation theories that will help you reach your dreams fast!
To be able to set your sights on a dream and to then reach your dream without any resistance.
Throughout this article we’ll be taking a look at various strategies, techniques and simple tips that will help you stay determined and focused when you find yourself in a funk.
Just imagine, no more:
- Wasted Dreams
- Lack of Focus
- Endless Procrastination
Just the simple ability to be able to continuously create your ideal outcome.
However, before we can begin to look at how we can achieve super human levels of drive, we first need to understand exactly what motivation is.
What Is Motivation?Simply put, the goal of motivation is to move towards your dream without any resistance from internal or external factors. It’s the driving forces that allow you to move away from unwanted realities and instead step into a world of our own creation.
Motivation truly is at the heart of all our successes. Without it we get tied to a life of quiet desperation, repetition and mediocrity but with it we can excel in all areas of our lives: Business, finances, health and it will push our personal growth to a whole new level of development.
Is This Article For Me?
- Have a constant lack of motivation and find it hard to just get going?
- Feel unmotivated or uninspired by your dreams?
- Look to motivate other people to perform better at work or in life?
- Rapidly lose motivation once the creative thinking stage is over?
If you or the people around you have low motivation or drive then this article could be exactly what you’ve been looking for.
The 5 Rules of Motivation:
RULE 1 - Believe and AchieveIt was during my secondary schooling years when I first adopted the ‘Story’ that I was stupid. I was that child in the bottom-set for each of my classes, doodling in his text books, his head firmly placed in the clouds.
Teachers used to say to me “You’ll never amount to anything if you don’t study”. Year after year I grew more and more disconnected with my schooling. It felt as though the teachers had simply given up on me. I was missing homework, class assignments and failing all of my mock exams.
Teachers thought I was stupid, pupils in the higher sets thought I was stupid, so I too believed that I was stupid.
Flash forward to my final exams and as predicted I lived up to the expectations that were set upon me. At 16 years old I left school armed for the world with the following grades: E’s, F’s, X’s, U’s. Oh, and one D for art.
It wasn’t until I went back to college in my early 20’s to study music production that the story started to change. The very first assignment that I was set I received an A**.
I couldn’t believe it. I achieved the highest grade that you could get without breaking a sweat! What had happened? Had I all of a sudden become super smart?
I soon realised that it wasn’t school that I hated - it was the subjects, topics, lessons, the way it was being taught and most importantly other people’s belief in me. School teachers simply gaveup, whereas my college tutors expected more from me; they held me to a higher standard - they believed in me.
I passed all my exams with flying colours and ever since those college days I have thrown myself deep into the world of personal growth. Diving into any subject that interests me and truly believing that I can master it if I choose to.
Old Story / Old expectation: I can’t do this
New Story / New expectation: I can do this
Since changing my story I have:
- Learned to play 4 instruments and have written and recorded 32 songs
- Taught myself graphic design and programming
- Mastered marketing and business strategy
- Certified as an NLP Master, Clinical & Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist
- Qualified as a health nutritionist
- Run a private mindset therapy / life coaching practice
- Have partnered in many businesses
- Written an Amazon best-selling book
- Been in demand as a business coach & consultant
Motivation starts with the story that you tell yourself. If you believe you can’t do it, it’s impossible or you might tell yourself that you just don’t have the time! Then change your story and start believing that you can.
Change your story, change your world!
Set goals that you’re passionate about and that you have a very high interest in. Build your self-efficacy and confidence by celebrating the little wins (this creates lasting momentum). Surround yourself with people who will hold you to a higher standard and expect more from you, and finally you must demand more from yourself!
Motivation starts with the belief that you can achieve your goals. If you don’t believe it’s possible you’ll never even start.
RULE 2 - Choose MotivationIt’s without a doubt the single most frequent question that I get asked - "How are you so motivated?".
This is then often followed by “I’m just not that way. It must be in your DNA.”
Now, while it’s a nice idea that motivation is the privilege for only a few it just simply isn’t true. We like to believe that it’s outside of our control; this belief gives us a very convenient ‘get out of jail free card’. ’I’m just not motivated. That’s just not who I am. "I’ll just watch more Netflix instead of pursuing my dreams."
The more we give away our personal responsibility, the more we remain trapped.
The truth is that motivation is a choice…
Just as confidence, energy and happiness are. We can either choose to override our fears and pursue our passions or we can choose to allow procrastination to take control. However, just because it’s a choice it does not mean that it’s easy. The good news is, there are some simple techniques and skills that we can adopt to break free from our old habits and create new empowering ones.
It all starts with the acceptance of your own personal responsibility. It’s your choice to watch TV just as it’s your choice to get off your ass and move towards your desired outcome. So next time you find yourself complaining that you don’t have the life that you want or find yourself saying "It’s alright for them!" - STOP and ask yourself ’What Life Have I Been Choosing For Myself?’ One of action or one of excuses?
RULE 3 - Motivation Is Contextual:As preciously stated in rule 1 the phrase ‘I am not motivated’ will become a part of your identity if you repeatedly say it to yourself and believe the worlds to be true – a self-fulfilling prophecy.
A much more empowering belief is to look at motivation for what it is - A Driving Force. You are NOT motivation and motivation is NOT you. You are a person - a human who is motivated to do certain things and not others. Just as anxiety, depression or happiness do not make up who you are.
So instead of saying “I am not motivated”, say to yourself, “I am motivated to do the things I choose to do, however I’m currently unmotivated to do this specific task.”
By dissociating from the identity of an unmotivated person, it allows us to question how we can overcome this specific challenge. Chunk down the tasks into small and more manageable steps.
“I am not motivated to go to the gym.”
“I am motivated to get my gym clothes on.”
“I am motivated to drive to the gym.”
“I am motivated to do the 5min warm-up”
“I am not currently motivated to work hard on the bike for 15mins.”
This allows us to stop generalising and to get very specific as to what exactly we are struggling with. The more crystal clear clarity you have on what’s stopping you, the more likely you’ll be able to break through. Once we have isolated where the lack of motivation lies we can then simply challenge it.
Ask yourself ‘What strategies can I implement to help me overcome this?’
RULE 4 - Don’t Give Into Fear:Fear is what keeps us chained to a life without progression. Remember, motivation is to “move towards” - not to stay stagnant.
Fear comes in all forms:
- The fear of loss
- The fear of success
- The fear of judgement
- The fear of struggle
and so on.
Fear is nothing more than an inbuilt defence mechanism that is designed to protect us from danger. The only place that fear should have in your life is when you are in real physical danger.
However, fear is all too often used as the unspoken force that stops us from achieving our full potential.
My own personal fear raised its ugly head when I was coming up to the launch of my recent book ‘How To Succeed In Life & Happiness’. The closer it came to launch day the more the negative voices creptin.
- ‘Who are you to have a book?’
- ‘Everyone is just going to laugh at you.’
- ‘No one is going to buy it.’
I pushed through the internal voices and finished the book as planned. However, once the marketing began the trolls started. Keyboard warriors sending me abusive messages. Unmotivated bottom feeders desperately seeking some kind of life significance through the misery of others.
If we choose to give in to these internal and external voices it will have such a detrimental impact on our life. My fear of being judged almost stopped me from pursuing my dreams.
It sounds ludicrous that an irrational fear (a negative belief) has such power over us. Luckily for me, I had the tools and skills to be able to deal with the internal and external crap that was coming my way, but for so many of us this is not always the case.
- How many times have you held back from truly putting yourself out there for fear of judgement or criticism?
- How many time have you settled for less because you were worried about other people’s opinions?
- How many times have you quit because you didn’t feel worthy or good enough?
I choose to face my fears simply by choosing to consciously override them. You can either give in to the noise or you can chose to rise above the noise. If you have something worth chasing then never allow fear to be your excuse.
- Step1: Become aware that you have the fear in the first place.
- Step2: Accept that fear, without judgement of criticism.
- Step3: Say to yourself "Fuck it - I’m doing it anyway!"
RULE 5 - Honesty:Be honest - do you really want the outcome?
Do you really have a deep seated desire to persevere through the hard times, challenging your fears, putting in the huge amounts of effort and energy required?
It’s ok if you don’t. Just don’t complain about not having your desired outcome if you’re not willing to put in the work. The truth is, motivation comes from an overwhelming sense of personal importance.
You have to want the outcome so much that you are willing to fight tooth and nail until you achieve it.
If your dream is a simple ‘that would be nice to have’, then you’re probably not truly committed to the outcome. If your dream is a ‘MUST have’ then you are much more likely to be willing to sacrifice in order to achieve it. You have to be willing to burn your bridges and take the island.
The importance factor is the reason why so many businesses struggle to motivate their employees. They believe that financial incentives should be enough of a carrot to make their staff work relentlessly for them. They fail to see that their employees are working for someone else’s dream, not their own.
Yes, the employers may well have buckets of passion and drive but this is because it’s their business, their dream. They are the ones being creative and making life choices. They are the ones who are pursuing a life of freedom.
Employees, however, are there to work, get paid and then go home. It’s here where they get to live their own dreams and personal goals.
Each of us will have a very different ‘IMPORTANT’ factor. Some will be financial gain, for others it could be contribution to their family, children, ego, health or happiness. Each of us will decide the level of importance based on our own personal values.
So if you’re looking to motivate yourself or others into action, ask yourself:
- How important is this to me? Am I willing to sacrifice?
- How important is this to them? Are they willing to sacrifice?
And most importantly, how can I motivate based on intrinsic values and not extrinsic rewards.
Final ThoughtsSo that is it for this article. I truly hope you find some words of inspiration and are now motivated to chasing your desires. Just remember, we are all motivated towards some kind of action but very few of us are motivated towards our dreams. Don’t allow your fears to dictate your destiny, don’t allow ‘Unmotivated’ to become your identity: Believe that you can achieve anything that you set your mind to and if it’s important enough to you, you’ll soon make your dreams a reality.
Here’s to your success!